Relationship Advice

A long distance relationship comes with it own sets of issues - not seeing someone on a daily basis can make it hard to judge how the other person feels about you. eHarmony have compiled a list of things to look out for if you're doubting the honesty of your long distance love.

1.    Delays in answering your phonecalls
Communication is key in any relationship, but in a long distance relationship it is essential. If your partner doesn’t seem to be putting in the effort to contact you at the end of the day with a phone or Skype call then they may not be as invested as you’d hope. Emails and texts are nice but without seeing someone or hearing their voice the messages can be lost in translation and things can be misconstrued. 
 
2.    Compromise – yes for you, no for them
Relationships are all about compromise, and a long distance relationship should be no different. But if your partner won’t visit you one weekend because they have a 5-a-side match, or because they want to have Sunday lunch with their mates then they might need to rethink their priorities.  It’s essential that both parties are willing to put in effort to a long distance relationship, and if that means forgoing other pleasures then that’s the way it has to be. If your partner doesn’t seem willing to put you first, then one or both of you might need to rethink your priorities, or your relationship.
 
3.    Their behaviour changes suddenly
Have you noticed a change in the way your partner is addressing you when they call? Have they become aloof – “I’m fine, just tired” or overly needy, “I love you and miss you soooo much!”? This may be a signal that there is something a miss in your relationship. Of course it could also be that they are just having a bad day and wish you were with them – keep track of these types of days so you can know the difference. 
 
4.    They start ’managing” their facebook profile
We’ve all been tagged in pictures with people we hardly know, at the end of a night out, but have you noticed any change in your partner’s online behaviour? Are they being tagged with mysterious people you’ve never met? Being ‘check in’ at venues you didn’t even know they were going to? A long distance relationship is such that you probably don’t know where your partner is every second so have the conversation with them! You have a right to know who they are spending their time with when you aren’t there.

Experience the eHarmony online dating difference. We want to help you find someone you really connect with. It all starts when you complete our Questionnaire, which helps you define what you want, right upfront. We’ll then use everything you’ve told us to find singles uniquely right for you. And because we only match you with people whose goals, values and personality traits most complement you, you can be confident in knowing you’re only meeting people you have the best chance of connecting with someone.