11 February 2011
Five photos that make you look undateable
Let’s be honest. How you look in your photos does matter. But not in the way you think. You don’t have to be the best looking person on the site to meet people; you just have to represent yourself well.
More often than not, your looks aren’t the deciding factor in whether someone will be interested in you. What matters is what you are doing in your picture; in other words, how you present yourself to the world. After all, deciphering online profiles isn’t exactly easy.
Check out the list below for examples of photos to steer clear of…
Photo 1: You’re at a bar drinking with friends
In an effort to look fun and popular, people post photos of themselves drinking at a bar with their friends. But in actual fact, these photos can make you come across as a party animal.
The photo may have been taken on the one night you go out all year, but people on the other side of cyberspace don’t know that. They see that you like drinking with your friends and presume you do it often. If that’s the persona you’d like to reflect, that’s ok. But if not, be warned.
Photo 2: You’ve cut out your ex
Cutting your ex out of a photo and posting it online is a not a good idea, even if it’s a nice photo of you. Every time you see your profile, you’re going to think of your ex and others might think you’re still not over them.
In the age of digital photography, there’s no reason why you can’t take another photo that’s just as good, or better. If you absolutely must crop your ex out of a photo, cut them completely out of the picture. Don’t leave a big square in the middle where a face used to be, or an arm draped over your shoulder with nothing attached to it.
Photo 3: You’re standing next to a celebrity
This photo phenomenon is a little less common than the others, but it does happen. If you do have a picture of yourself with a celebrity, don’t post it. It won’t make you look more important or alluring. You’ll just look like a person standing next to a celebrity.
Photo 4: You’re dressed as a superhero
You may have dressed up as Catwoman or Superman on one occasion at your cousin’s 30th, but people perusing your profile might think parading around in costumes is a hobby, or you’re trying to – excuse the pun—disguise who you are.
Any person who’s worth your time will delight in your quirkiness, but when you’re putting yourself out there, it’s best to save the fun photos for later.
Photo 5: You’re posing with something expensive
If you post a photo posing next to your new BMW or standing in a way that shows off your Channel bag, you’ll come across as superficial. When it comes down to it, no one wants to be with someone who cares more about material possession than people.
There is an exception, however: if your hobbies include building cars or collecting expensive toys, it’s okay to include them. Just make sure you’re trying to represent you and not your bank balance.