Relationship Advice

22 March 2012

Want some feedback on your eHarmony profile?

by eHarmony

New Feature: each month we'll be featuring one user's About Me profile, asking you all to provide (constructive!) feedback on what you think works - and what doesn't work. Find out more here!


We all know photos are really important, but your About Me profile plays a huge part in helping your matches decide whether they’ll get in touch or not. We’ve noticed more and more Advice users asking for opinions on the content of their profile, wanting to know whether something in particular is off putting.

So, we’ve decided to start a new feature. It’s very simple – each month we’ll feature one user’s profile and ask the rest of the community to feedback on what they like about it, and what they feel could be improved about it.

This can be totally anonymous – we’ll just post your profile contents and your gender*. We’ll also only be posting comments that are constructive criticism – anything considered a personal attack will be deleted.

If you’re interested please email us the contents of your profile, indicating your gender, and whether you would be happy for us to use your first name, or keep it anonymous. We’ll pick one at random and get started!

* While you are welcome to send us copy/pastes from your own profile, please be advised that copy/pasting, screencapping or otherwise replicating the profile of one of your matches is a violation of eHarmony’s Terms of Service.

*While you are welcome to post copy/pastes from your own profile here, please be advised that copy/pasting, screencapping or otherwise replicating the profile of one of your matches is a violation of eHarmony’s Terms of Service.
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Comments

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Lady Scarlett

10 May 2012 08:46

In my own wordsThe one thing I am most passionate about:
family career study

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
I will tell you after I get to know you well

The most influential person in my life has been:
my life coaches

..The three things which I am most thankful for:
•my appreciation and gratefulness of kindness & help from other people
•my passion in my work, study and life
•my appreciation and gratefulness of being well brought up by my strict parents
Three of my best life-skills are:
•Long-term personal planning
•Earning income to provide for my family
•Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things
.
The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
I can think, act and talk for myself. In particular, issues that matter to me most, and are closest to my heart

..The things I can’t live without are:
books
coffee
family
enjoyment & passion in every task
company of a trusted person during ups & downs
..The first thing people notice about me:
I don’t know

..My interestsI typically spend my leisure time:
going out, dining, movies, reading, DVD, sleeping, surfing the net, sightseeing, going to the beach, etc
The last book I read and enjoyed:
I appreciate and enjoy a lot of books but I am not good at putting my thoughts and feelings into words
.
According to my friends:My friends describe me as:
Modest
Quiet
Respectful
Hard Working

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Kathy

22 June 2012 07:09

Not wanting to say what your looking for in a person…offputting
-as the purpose of the site is looking for a MATCH in a particular person. The reader can identify this important aspect to be a part of them or know that it is not and never would be.
Saying one must get to know the person better to say what they look for in a partner Could be interpretted as:
1) they don’t know themselves well enough to think of even one thing
2) they want to tell each individual person later what that particular person would like to hear based on each persons own profile (indicates dishonesty)
3) They are not ready for an open honest relationship so sincere seekers should skip that profile and move on.

Placing commas between different thoughts can be helpful to readers in understanding the information more quickly. I.E.
“Family, Career, Studies”

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Emma

24 July 2012 10:30

Hi Lady Scarlett

How brave of you to post! Well done.

I notice that you say that you “can think, act and talk for myself. In particular, issues that matter to me most, and are closest to my heart” yet later you say “I appreciate and enjoy a lot of books but I am not good at putting my thoughts and feelings into words” I found this confusing and contradictory.

I felt like your profile presents you as someone who may find it hard to express yourself, and that may put people off, afterall communication is vital in relationships.

You talk about having strict parents, and you say you are respectful and hardworking and can earn a good income. This sounded very serious to me! I wondered if there is also a more playful side to you that hasn’t quite come across as well as it could.

Finally, you say you really appreciate the people in your life, and their support through good and bad times. That was really nice to read, it sounded soft and made you sound very approachable. Yet I notice you say you don’t know what people first notice about you and I wondered if you could ask your friends, and perhaps put something in. I think this question shows a lot about how self-aware we are.

Good luck in your search!

- Emma

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Neene

12 August 2012 02:11

Hi Lady Scarlett
I agree with other comments that you MUST know what you’re looking for in a partner, otherwise you come across as lacking in self confidence and self awareness, which you profess to have. If you don’t know what you want, then how can you go after it?

Stating that the “most influential person/s in life” are your life coaches, gives the impression that you need professional guidance a lot. Surely someone has made an impression on you eg. teacher, relative, friend, colleague. Even if your home life was bad, reflect on some happy moments and positive influences in your life. There must be at least one person who’s made an impression on you.

Likewise, your comment on books – “not being able to put thoughts & feelings into words” contradicts your earlier statements, which are rather descriptive.

My guess is that you’re an avid reader, but shy. Perhaps you’ve been rejected and therefore fear putting your true feelings down on paper. No need to worry as you’re only being asked for thoughts on what you’ve READ, and you can be brief. Go on – have a go at putting a few lines down about a book you’ve really enjoyed!
Good luck

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M

10 September 2013 01:49

“M”

Male

In my own words
The one thing I am most passionate about:
That one day I have visited every continent on the planet. I’m passionate about a career that when I look back at the end of the day, I can be satisfied that I have achieved something worthwhile. I’m really into self-evolution with development and learning.

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
Someone feminine. Gentle but with a strong personality. Independent and have integrity. Someone I can laugh with and be my best friend as well as my lover and travel partner, my adventurer and partner in crime. Someone with direction in life. You don’t have to be there, but just be on your way.

The most influential person in my life has been:
My friends. I have always surrounded myself with people that bring out the best in me. That challenge me. They have always given me a sense of perspective and reality to my life and kept me grounded.

The three things which I am most thankful for:
Ability to be at peace with myself.
Ability to see the humour in all things.
Loyalty and passion I have for my partners and myself in life and love.
Three of my best life-skills are:
Being a good friend and companion
Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things
Finding new adventures and unique experiences
The things I can’t live without are:
Sport
My Ipod
Car
Passport
Good coffee
The first thing people notice about me:
My sense of humour. It can sometimes get me in trouble but I always try to make people laugh.

My interests
I typically spend my leisure time:
Sadly my leisure time is few and far between until I finish my degree at the end of the year, but typically I love exercising and sport. It has never felt like work, or something I needed to do. It’s just fun for me. So touch football, running and gym for Tough Mudder events when they come around and when all that is over, a good bottle of red or a beer to chill out with.

The last book I read and enjoyed:
The Snowman, by Jø Nesbo. It’s a crime thriller set in Norway that identifies corruption, murder & romance. It follows a detective and his unorthodox method of solving crime. Sadly though, I don’t get to read many novels as I’m just about to finish uni this year but hopefully that will change soon.

According to my friends:
My friends describe me as:
Funny
Genuine
Loyal
Passionate

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Geoff

7 October 2013 09:45

I would like to cancel my account

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