Posts by Rory Gibson

The first date went well. What next?

It’s the day after that first meeting and you think there was chemistry. Working out the next step can tie people up in knots. Communication is the key to moving forward. It was a great night out and you’re keen for round two. You’ve got thousands of thoughts running through your head. Who makes contact […]

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It’s the first date. Who pays?

The rules about how men and women relate to each other are being updated constantly. There used to be almost universal acceptance that the man paid for the night out. Who picks up the tab now?  It is a vexing question, this “who pays?” thing, and nowhere near as straightforward as you might imagine. While on […]

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The ex files

There are very few relationships that end well. It is rare thing to see a parting pair agree to walk away from something that has run its course, retaining mutual respect. Mostly, it ends in tears, for one person at least. But all too often you see couples crash and burn, then rise from the […]

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couple dancing outdoors

Talking to a stranger

You’re going on a first date. You’re nervous. What will we talk about? Will he or she expect me to do all the talking? Yikes! What if I talk too much? Or too little? Or come across as boring? Relax. Breathe a little. You’ve got this. Good skill to learn Being able to hold a […]

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Are you a keyboard lover or a traditionalist?

The digital age has changed the way we find partners, but we are all still looking for the same old thing.  I was invited to my twenty-something second cousin’s wedding recently. She had met her fiancé online and love flourished from there. And now here they were getting married in my uncle’s backyard, a very […]

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The Aussie love economy

When The Beatles had a hit with “Can’t Buy Me Love” back in the 60s, they weren’t to know the song would make a perfect anthem for singles today. People looking for a great relationship are spending up big on dates, not just in terms of money but in time too. For many though, the […]

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Dating expectations

You know what they say about expectations… if you don’t have any you won’t be disappointed. It is as true for dating as any other activity. But really, there should be a few standard expectations, for both parties. Common courtesy, essentially. If you agree to meet someone, turn up on time, make sure you are well-groomed […]

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Commitment myth

So, my boss at eharmony said, “Can you write an article about why some men find it hard to commit?” And I said, “Maybe, I’m not sure. Do I have to? I’m not ready for that kind of effort yet. Why are you so needy?” OK, I didn’t say that, but I wish I had […]

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Multicultural compatibility

It had never occurred to me that the dating scene in Australia could appear peculiar to people from other cultures. Then I came across a guide on dating designed for international students. Who knew you needed a guide? I thought it was pretty straight forward. You arrange to meet, have a few laughs and … […]

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Oscars prove to be dating gold

March is Oscars time, meaning everyone’s talking movies. It presents a perfect opportunity to organise a date. Going to see a film has always been a popular dating activity, and talking about your favourite movies is a great way to break the ice with someone you are interested in. But in the world of romance […]

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