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The first date went well. What next?

It’s the day after that first meeting and you think there was chemistry. Working out the next step can tie people up in knots. Communication is the key to moving forward. It was a great night out and you’re keen for round two. You’ve got thousands of thoughts running through your head. Who makes contact […]

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How to get over your ex

If you you’re stuck in that emotional post-breakup rut, here are 10 reminders to help you move forward and get over your ex. Yes, they’re common sense and fairly simple — but not always so easy to follow. 1. Cry Denial doesn’t solve anything. If you need to cry it out, do so. Or maybe you […]

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It’s the first date. Who pays?

The rules about how men and women relate to each other are being updated constantly. There used to be almost universal acceptance that the man paid for the night out. Who picks up the tab now?  It is a vexing question, this “who pays?” thing, and nowhere near as straightforward as you might imagine. While on […]

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A Valentine’s Day miracle

In our Dating Diaries, real people talk about real dates … what went right, what went wrong, what they learnt from the experience. And the biggest question of all: was there a second date? Janine is a 46-year-old COO of a superannuation fund. She is divorced, has no kids, and is looking for a long-term […]

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The ex files

There are very few relationships that end well. It is rare thing to see a parting pair agree to walk away from something that has run its course, retaining mutual respect. Mostly, it ends in tears, for one person at least. But all too often you see couples crash and burn, then rise from the […]

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A dating guide for shy girls

If you’re a shy girl, the thought of beginning your dating journey might fill you with fear. How will you start approaching people? What do you say? What do you even want from a relationship? And how do you find out if they’re mutually into you? For many shy people, online dating can be a […]

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Lessons in tight t-shirts and long dating checklists

6’2″, blue eyes, brown hair, small ears, big feet … ‘You’re too picky!’ ‘You’re never going to find someone …’ ‘Your checklist is longer than the Great Wall of China …’ ‘You need to be more open minded!’ A high pitched acapella of well- meaning friends and family sharing their insights into why I was […]

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A great first date, but no second

In our Dating Diaries, real people talk about real dates … what went right, what went wrong, what they learnt from the experience. And the biggest question of all: was there a second date? Cameron, 48, is an analyst, currently on a career break. He is divorced with two children. Who did you go on […]

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How to break toxic relationship patterns for good

When we think of finding love, we rarely do the groundwork involved within ourselves to know a) if we are even ready to date b) what it is that we need and how to identify it, and c) are we someone who is dateable? We assume that cultivating a lasting and healthy relationship begins with […]

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The date from hell

In our Dating Diaries, real people talk about real dates … what went right, what went wrong, what they learnt from the experience. And the biggest question of all: was there a second date? Janine is a 45 year old office manager. She is divorced with two teenage children, a 19-year-old, and a 17-year-old. She […]

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