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a person is writing the checklist

Lessons in tight t-shirts and long dating checklists

6’2″, blue eyes, brown hair, small ears, big feet … ‘You’re too picky!’ ‘You’re never going to find someone …’ ‘Your checklist is longer than the Great Wall of China …’ ‘You need to be more open minded!’ A high pitched acapella of well- meaning friends and family sharing their insights into why I was […]

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A great first date, but no second

In our Dating Diaries, real people talk about real dates … what went right, what went wrong, what they learnt from the experience. And the biggest question of all: was there a second date? Cameron, 48, is an analyst, currently on a career break. He is divorced with two children. Who did you go on […]

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How to break toxic relationship patterns for good

When we think of finding love, we rarely do the groundwork involved within ourselves to know a) if we are even ready to date b) what it is that we need and how to identify it, and c) are we someone who is dateable? We assume that cultivating a lasting and healthy relationship begins with […]

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The date from hell

In our Dating Diaries, real people talk about real dates … what went right, what went wrong, what they learnt from the experience. And the biggest question of all: was there a second date? Janine is a 45 year old office manager. She is divorced with two teenage children, a 19-year-old, and a 17-year-old. She […]

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The power of silence: when to say nothing on a date

Do you really want to get to know someone? Then on your next date, try saying nothing at the right moment and you might just hear from the heart of your date, and learn more about who they really are. No matter how relaxed you are, when you’re dating, looking for love or auditioning someone to play […]

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When you’re feeling negative about dating

Dating can be exhilarating. There are new people to meet, first kisses to be had, and the possibility of one day falling in love. But dating can also be scary. After all, it takes courage to meet a new person for the very first time, and it takes a certain degree of emotional resilience. There […]

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Bringing it home: how a leap of faith opened doors

In our Dating Diaries, real people talk about real dates … what went right, what went wrong, what they learnt from the experience. And the biggest question of all: was there a second date? Ummi Tambiwala, 29, event marketing specialist, has been single for the last 18 months and is approaching the dating world with […]

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Premium help in quest for love

If your car breaks down you take it to a mechanic, right? Need help with your finances? Hook up with an accountant. If you feel unwell, it’s off to the doctor. Enlisting the help of an expert to sort stuff out is common. In fact it is essential to getting the best out of life. […]

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The worst three colours to wear on a first date

What you wear on a first date is an important decision. Here are the colours you shouldn’t sport … and the hues that might get you to date #2. We’ve all been there. Date night is looming and you don’t have a clue about what you’re going to wear. Cue an open wardrobe, clothes strewn […]

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Are you a keyboard lover or a traditionalist?

The digital age has changed the way we find partners, but we are all still looking for the same old thing.  I was invited to my twenty-something second cousin’s wedding recently. She had met her fiancé online and love flourished from there. And now here they were getting married in my uncle’s backyard, a very […]

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