3 Tips to make dating fun
Do you avoid dating simply because you’re afraid of catfishing or ghosting? Some of us may see dating as a chore or believe that there are too many commitment-phobes out there. We can choose to see dating differently. The secret to making dating fun is that it is actually fun! As Mahatma Gandhi says, “You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” And that is the dating world.
A good friend of mine (who was a matchmaker) told me that she sees dating like screening candidates for an interview. At the end of the date, she sorts them into 2 categories: Friend-zone or Interested. The way she said it was so enlightening. Funny enough, she isn’t single anymore and this can be the same for you.
Here are 3 tips to making dating fun:
Make love your goal
The first step to getting started is know what you want in a partner. Just like setting a goal to lose weight. How many kilos would you like to lose? How does it look like and feel like when you have lost those kilos? What does losing weight mean to you? For some of us it would be feeling good about ourselves, restoring vitality or having a fit body but in the end it all comes back to restoring your health. We know to get there, we must start exercising, eat nutritious meals and cultivate an empowering mindset.
It’s the same with having a life partner, there are different reasons why we want someone special in our lives. Someone to grow old with, someone to have a family, someone to share the good times and the bad, whatever it may be, the desired outcome from dating is having love. What will it take for us to get there? We start with cultivating a self-loving mindset, be clear in what we want in a life partner and take action in showing up for love like meeting people through online dating, speed dating and social events. A clearly defined goal stated in the positive will continually put you forward towards love, this is proven by The Secret.
Have an open mind
Be open to the possibility of love. This is a chance to open up to the world of dating and meeting new people. I remembered saying no to dates in the past because I was closed minded about dating. A few months ago, my ex property manager asked me out on a date. I thought about it and said to myself, why not? I have nothing to lose. I said yes and it turned out we had 3 fun dates! Although he wasn’t the one but along the way, I opened myself up to having fun, meeting someone new, learning more about myself and what I truly want in a partner. Whether or not I had him as my partner is not the point, if I placed my focus of having him as my new boyfriend, I am setting myself up for disappointment and emotional disaster. Instead, I discovered a renewed relationship with myself and giving myself the opportunity to love and grow.
You are worthy of love just like anybody on this planet. The best thing you can do is be yourself and bring out the best in you. As quoted by Rhonda Byrne, Founder of The Secret, “The law of attraction says that like attracts like, and when you think and feel what you want to attract on the inside, the law will use people, circumstances and events to magnetize what you want.” What are the things that you love about you? It’s not our inadequacies that people are interested in, people are drawn to self-confidence and warmth because self-love is what supports you. Find ways to feel confident and be at ease when you go on a date like wearing your favourite outfit, share your sense of humour and ask fun questions like, “If you had super powers what would it be?” “What’s your secret talent?” and ” What’s on your bucket list?”
The aim of the dating game is to have fun. It’s the journey to finding love and an experience to learn more about it. As the saying goes by Michelle Rose, “Become love, and love comes.”
About the author
Jessica Goh is not your ordinary life coach, she specializes in self-confidence and reconnecting with your highest self. She has helped men and women who suffer from depression, anxiety, obsessive-compulsive disorder, low self-esteem and mid-life crisis experiences. Her work has resulted in clients re-connecting a loving relationship with their parents, discovering their self-worth and happiness, letting go of past pains and reigniting to a life of appreciation and love, switching careers and increase of money flow in their career. Her purpose for coaching is to educate and empower everyday Australians to live a life that they love. Jessica believes that life brings us challenges so we can become our authentic self. Discover your self-confidence at www.lifeinconfidence.com.
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