A great first date, but no second


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In our Dating Diaries, real people talk about real dates … what went right, what went wrong, what they learnt from the experience. And the biggest question of all: was there a second date?

Cameron, 48, is an analyst, currently on a career break. He is divorced with two children.

Who did you go on a date with? Lynette, early 40s, works for a non-profit.

Where did you go? We went to a pub in North Hobart for a drink, then moved to a pub in Salamanca for a meal and finished with a walk around the wharfs.

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Who picked the venue? We decided on the first pub together as neither of us had been there before.

How did you meet? On a dating app.

What did you like about her profile? I thought she was funny.

Did you chat much before the date? We chatted and joked on the dating app for a few days but didn’t exchange phone numbers.

What did you wear? The date was set for 3pm at a pub so I dressed casually in jeans, button up shirt and a jacket.

What were your first impressions when you met in person? I arrived first by a couple of minutes, and when Lynette turned up we spotted each other instantly. She was cuter than her photo and was wearing a denim jacket that really suited her. She had an earthy style and seemed to radiate an aura of calm. And, to my relief, she didn’t have a squeaky voice!

What did you talk about on the date? Everything from why I moved to Hobart, to homelessness, to back stories on our pets, to kids, politics and feminism. I think we found some general agreement on what is wrong with the world.

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I probably talked slightly more than Lynette, as I tend to fill in the empty spaces when I’m a bit nervous.

Who paid? We went Dutch.

Did you enjoy the date? I think we both did – it went on for eight hours.

Do you want to see them again? I would have liked to. But a day or so later I got a message that she was leaving tinder, which I took as a sign that she didn’t want to see me again.

What did you take away from the experience? I learned that sometimes things don’t happen between two people, even if the date is good. I think we both went home thinking that the other was just “a nice person”. There was none of the giddiness that happens when you know you’ve found someone special.

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