5 Signs you’re ready to date again
After some time following a break-up or divorce, you’ll reach a stage where you feel ready to date again. But how do you know when you’re truly ready? Here we go through 5 key signs to test your date-readiness:
You’ve let go
It’s easy to say you’ve let go, but have you really? Letting go means you’ve gone through the dark tunnel of emotions including sadness, anger and denial, before finally coming out the other end to a place of acceptance. Have you been through the tunnel or are you avoiding it altogether?
You will know when you have truly let go when you’re able to think of them without any old feelings rising to the surface.
You have pure intentions
Entering the dating world for any other reason than wanting to meet someone new and build a happy future is only going to end in disappointment. If you want to get back into dating for revenge, financial security, an ego boost or just because you cannot bear to be single anymore, you will attract an unhealthy relationship with someone who equally doesn’t have your best intentions. And with those shaky foundations, the relationship simply won’t last the test of time.
You have recovered your sense of self
When people have been in a long-term relationship they often lose sight of who they are as an individual, and it can take some time to get to know themselves again. Even really simple things like what foods you like, what your values and passions are and what makes you laugh can get lost over the years, and it is important to rediscover them before dating again. Having a strong sense of who you are often involves going out and trying new things for yourself, and enjoying your own company. When you’re able to be happy on your own, you will be ready to be happy with someone else.
You’re clear on what you want
Once you have a strong sense of self and are responsible for your own happiness, put some thought into what you want from a new relationship. Look around at couples you know and look for aspects of their relationship that you would like to experience yourself. What qualities and characteristics do you admire in people? What personality types are you most compatible with? What values and passions would your ideal partner share with you?
Having a clear idea of the relationship you want puts you in control of your future, rather than falling into a relationship that may not be quite right for you.
You have time
Lastly, you’re more likely to have a positive dating experience if you have the time and energy to devote to the process. This is also a good indicator as to whether dating is actually a priority for you right now, because if it is you will dedicate the time for it. The online dating journey can be a long (yet rewarding) experience, and you need to be prepared to put some effort in upfront into writing a profile, looking through profiles, communicating with your matches and then going on dates.
All-in-all, dating should be a fun process and when you display these five date-ready signs, you are well on your way to dating success! Are you ready to date again? Have no fear, sign up to eharmony today and review your matches for free! And to learn more about dating, love & relationships follows us on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.
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