Conquer your online dating fears


Are you one of the singles out there who are too scared to try online dating? Well you’re certainly not alone! But the truth is, there is little to fear if you approach it with the right mindset. Here are 5 of the most common online dating fears and how to overcome them.

Fear of being judged

Many singles still fear being seen by others on a dating site, convinced that they will be perceived as lonely and desperate. While there used to be a stigma associated with online dating, society has come a long way where we now embrace technology in almost every aspect of our lives, including helping us to meet new people. Online dating is only increasing in popularity every day and anyone who judges you is only a reflection of themselves, and certainly not worth your time or energy!

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Writing a profile

Filling out your profile and finding appropriate profile photos is often the hardest part of online dating. The key is not to write what you think your matches will want to hear, but to reveal your true self and values – because your ideal match will be drawn to the real you! As for photos, why not ask a friend to take some new pictures of you in an environment you’re comfortable in? And if you’re still feeling self-conscious about your looks – just remember that only the emotionally immature date based on looks alone, and that your positive traits and personality are all that your perfect match will see.

Initiating communication

Writing a message to a match is one of the most common complaints we hear from singles. It can be daunting making the first move to someone in the digital world, but writing a message to a match isn’t as hard as you think so long as you remember to keep it brief and conversational. It can also help to incorporate something you noticed in their profile or reference a shared interest to build some common ground.


Dealing with rejection is another common fear for online daters, especially those who are putting themselves out there for the first time. This is natural, but like with everything in life, you’ll never know until you try. Dating takes bravery but just remember that everyone on eharmony is in the same boat as you. In the same way you’re discovering the kind of person you’d like to meet, others are doing the same and rejection is a part of this process. Be ready to face rejection and just think of it as a step towards finding the right person.

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Online safety

It’s perfectly normal to feel some apprehension about security and safety when online dating because with every walk in life, you sometimes come across a bad apple. But you’ll be pleased to know that eharmony has many safety precautions in place, including an entire Trust & Safety team dedicated to monitoring the site and preventing fraudulent activity.

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