15 things Brits need to know before dating an American
With the Royal Wedding only two weeks away, transatlantic relationships are in the spotlight. Katie Ramsingh explores 15 things Brits should bare in mind when dating an American. Take note Prince Harry…
1. Drinking isn’t essential…
While us Brits think nothing of meeting for a cocktail or three, Americans aren’t as inclined to involve alcohol in their first dates. Instead of suggesting a drink at your local, start with a chat over coffee instead.
2. …but tipping is
Americans are big tippers (they even tip bartenders each time they’re served a drink). So, if you want to impress, don’t be stingy when it comes to showing your waiter some appreciation at the end of your meal.
3. Avoid using the 24 hour clock
After hearing people use military time in Hollywood action movies you’d be forgiven for assuming Americans also use it in their daily lives. They actually only use the 12 hour clock and often find our 24 hour system confusing, so if you’re messaging about meeting up be sure to let them know if it’s am or pm!
4. Don’t attempt their accent
No matter how many people have told you your California accent is uncanny, please do not show this off to your date. It can border on patronising or just be plain embarrassing.
5. But feel free to play up your own
Letting your real accent shine is an easy trick to charm an American. Whether you’re from Bath or Birmingham they’re sure to find you exotic.
6. Be prepared for daytime dates
Dating in the UK usually takes place under the cover of darkness, at least until you’re a few dates in, but across the pond they love nothing more than a fun daytime date. Picnics, gallery visits, and trying new activities together are the way to woo them.
7. And double dates
The thought of a double date makes many of us reserved Brits cringe, but in America two couples just means double the fun.
8. Politics are still off limits
The US President might be making headlines but it’s generally best to always avoid all talk of politics on a date. It’s not sexy and can lead to some heated and uncomfortable discussions.
9. Remember no-one is as polite as the British
If they don’t say thank you when you pass them the salt, just let it slide.
10. They’ll have questions
Why are washing machines in the kitchen? Who invented the unwritten law about standing on the right hand side of the escalators? What’s a Yorkshire pudding?
11. Get ready to laugh
Nothing beats sarcastic British humour but when it comes to letting loose and poking fun at yourself no one does it better than an American.
12. But don’t forget how Americans date
The term dating in the US means you are going on dates with someone but by no means does it mean you’re exclusive. Unless you’ve spoken about who you’re seeing, expect them to also be talking to other people regardless of how long the two of you have been in communication.
13. You’ll need to have ‘the talk’
When you do want to make things official you’ll need to make this clear. It doesn’t have to be scary, and you’ll find Americans are much more honest and straightforward in telling you how they feel, while Brits are sometimes vague as they try to be polite.
14. But once you do they’ll love meeting your family
Meeting ‘mom’ is a bigger deal in the US than the UK, so if they ask you to meet the parents they’re clearly smitten
15. You’ll be making the tea
Americans can do many things, but making a proper cup of tea is not one of them. Tea making duties will be yours for the foreseeable future.