Does age difference really matter?


Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.” – Mark Twain

As life expectancy goes up and people take better care of themselves, do traditional notions of appropriate age differences in relationships still matter? Are we just making it harder on ourselves by refusing to consider potential partners who are outside our personal set ‘age limit’?

If having children is in your plans and you’re a man, the age of your partner matters. There are certainly ways for older women to conceive children, but most men who want families tend to try and date women who are younger than 40.

Aside from that scenario, however, is there any reason that a 30-year-old woman can find love with a 35-year old and not a 45-year-old? There are men of that age who are in great shape, physically attractive, interesting and successful. So perhaps there is no reason to categorically exclude them.

Men often pursue younger women, even if they aren’t interested in a family. The typical reason being, ‘that’s who I’m more attracted to.’ But again, the sex appeal boundary gets pushed out further and further as women in their 50’s any beyond find themselves as public sex symbols.

Kim Cattrall of Sex in the City fame is 55. Elle McPherson is 48. Sharon Stone is 53. And while they are exceptionally attractive examples, it is certainly possible to meet someone significantly older who is sexy and attractive. Is having a policy against it a good idea?

Women in their 50’s may restrict their dating range because they risk falling in love with an older man and having to deal with his health issues. Men typically have a shorter average lifespan than women, but this doesn’t tell you anything about a particular guy. Some men may be remarkably fit and healthy for their age.

While any person is free to do what they like when looking for a relationship, is there really a benefit for the searcher to cast a narrow age restriction?

What do you think?

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