Five ways to turn him off

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When it comes to dating, most of us end up over-analysing our actions when a man doesn’t return our call. Did I talk too much? Did I chew too loudly? Did I say something offensive by mistake? Although there are many reasons why a man may lose interest, we’ve pinpointed five actions that are most likely to drive him away.

1. Saying ‘I love you’ too soon
Even though you may think you’ve found ‘The One’ after a few weeks of dating, doesn’t mean it’s time to profess your love. Many men will translate this as a sign of moving too fast. You both need time to work out how you really feel about each other, beyond that initial attraction. Reining yourself in from speaking too soon could do you both good in the long term.

2. Tomboy behaviour
We can all agree that women’s liberation has come a long way since Victorian times. We’re no longer required to wear long dresses and raise our pinky finger when we drink tea. But, the fact is that most blokes still like their dates to be feminine. Resist the temptation to challenge him to a beer drinking contest or piggy back him home – at least for the first few dates.

3. Dreaming of the big day
For some women, they meet the man of their dreams and the wedding follows naturally afterwards. But for other women, they’ve dreamed of getting married since they can remember. If you’re the type who’s already picked out your diamond ring and bridesmaids before the third date, you might want to keep a lid on your plans. Coming over and seeing your collection of bridal magazines will probably be a big turn off for most men.

4. Daddy cool
In our modern world, most male singles of a certain age know it’s quite likely they could end up dating a woman with children. If you’re a single parent, upfront honesty is important, as this can be a big no-no for some men. If your date accepts that you’re a parent, resist the temptation to tell him what a great dad he’ll make to little Ben. He’ll need to take cautious steps into your situation, and if he thinks you’re already envisioning him as your children’s new role model, he’s bound to feel overwhelmed.

5. Talking about your ex
It’s likely you have a dating history, as your match probably will. But talking about how fabulous or dismal your ex was can only be a turn off. If he was God’s gift to women, your date will feel he can never compare. And if he was a creep who slept with your best friend, your date will wonder why on earth you went out with him for so long – and wonder if you’ve got terrible judgment when it comes to men. Hold back on speaking about your past and focus on the present.


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