Women men avoid

Five women that men avoid

by Eharmony Editorial Team - October 5, 2009

There are some personalities that just make men want to turn and run. We've pinned down the top five - men, have you met any of these? And women, do you recognise yourselves in any of these?

You meet a new match, speak over the phone, go out once and never see them again. Sound familiar? If so, it’s likely you’ve met one of these five women to avoid

While dating is not about putting people in boxes, there are some personalities that just make men want to avoid.

1. The serial flirt
Men love a flirt. Besides being fun, a flirty match boosts their ego and makes the troublesome task of asking for a date a cinch.

But there’s a big difference between a situational flirt and a serial flirt. The former will only bat their eyelids for a select few and usually when encouraged, while the latter is someone men just don’t want to handle. A serial flirt is undiscriminating and will giggle, touch and flick their hair at everyone: the best friend, the father and the boss.

This game gets old quickly. Men will soon realise that her behaviour is simply attention-seeking – a sure sign of major self-esteem problems. Even a patient man is likely tire of this fast.

2. The commitment-phile
A man might have a fantastic first date with this match, but before he knows it she’ll be talking about the wedding, how many kids she wants, and the name of their future dog.

This is an age-old scenario. It puts too much pressure on the relationship from the start. First dates with a new match should always be kept light and a woman who tries to push things too far too soon will only accelerate a relationship to its end. Perhaps she cares more about fulfilling her plans than the person they involve – avoid.

3. The needy nuisance
This girl will cling on to her match wherever he goes, adopt his interests, call him endlessly and fly off the handle if she’s not around to keep an eye on his behaviour. Neediness is more work than a relationship deserves, stifling any chance for fun. She’ll rob him of energy and leave him feeling exhausted.

4. The party-lover
She’s wild, carefree and the girl every guy wants to catch. But she never knows when to stop. She might guarantee fun but what will this match be like in the sobering light of day?

Her riotous dance moves and hilarious antics might be good in small doses but underneath she’s a mess. It’s hard to have a serious relationship with someone who will never confront their own issues. Sooner or later she’s likely to crack.

5. The incessant talker
This is the woman to avoid with verbal diarrhoea. She never draws breath, sharing everything about her life to anyone who will listen.

Her ramblings drive men crazy for obvious reasons, but they also make men feel a little obsolete since they can never get a word in edge ways. The incessant talker doesn’t allow two-way conversation. She needs to learn the value of contented silence and that the more you talk, the less you learn.

The verdict
While nobody’s perfect and there are exceptions to every rule, these girls indicate a tough road ahead. You have been warned!