Improve your chances of dating success



Just like any other important goal in life, finding a healthy, lasting relationship may require some preparation, practice and proactive steps to maximise your chances of success.

A marathon runner doesn’t wake up one morning and decide to run a marathon. They start training and slowly build up their strength and stamina before they tackle the real thing. Though not as obvious as taking up running there are things you can do to get in training for the romance of your life.

Reflect on what you are offering

In order to really believe that someone will find you attractive, you need to believe you ‘are’ attractive. This doesn’t mean just physically. The first and most important relationship we have is with ourselves. It’s the only one that is guaranteed to last a lifetime so it’s worth an investment in time and energy. If you treat yourself well you are more likely to attract someone who will also treat you well.

Think of this as the training period. It will take time and effort but if you’re really determined you’ll succeed. While you are getting in tip top condition continue dating because it will help identify any areas you need to work on. You will see how your confidence grows as you start to feel better about yourself.

Open your heart

When your heart is open the world will look like a brighter place full of possibilities. This usually happens when we fall in love. The chances of that happening are much higher if you practice being open hearted, every day, in all circumstances.

Look for the good in people. Find the gift in situations which may look bad on the surface. Make a commitment to be happy no matter what happens. You will be surprised at the difference this can make in your life and all your relationships. You will be more approachable and appear more attractive. This will take practice, especially if you are normally a negative person, but the results will be worth it.

Widen your social circle

Mixing socially with lots of different people is one of the best ways you can increase your confidence. Joining a social group, taking up a hobby or learning a new skill will mean that your life is fuller and when you go on dates you have more to talk about.

The happier you are in your own life the more likely you are to attract someone who is also happy.

Heal the past

If you have been hurt by a past relationship it can be difficult to let go and move on but it is essential. Until you let go of the past there will be no room in your heart for someone new.  Often we hold onto the past because we think it will stop us from being hurt again in the future but the best way to ensure that is to learn the lessons from it. Look through the whole relationship, where could you have done something different which would have changed the outcome? Discovering what you could do differently in the future will set you free to love again.

Desire – ask – believe – receive

Do you really know what you are looking for in a new relationship? Have you used your profile to state this? Do you believe you are lovable and ready to accept a new person into your life? Finally, will you have your arms wide open to receive love when it comes? This is a powerful formula which will dramatically improve your chances of dating success if you address each point.

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