The 5 worst pieces of dating advice
1) “Don’t worry about ‘being yourself’ – you can relax once they’ve made a commitment”
First impressions count. It’s something we learn pretty early on in our life. And it can be very tempting to put across our idea of ‘perfect’ when it comes to dating too – whether it’s the real us or not. Even if it’s something as small as pretending you love the ocean even though you have a major fear of sharks, or waking up early to apply a little make-up, it’s a slippery slope. That’s one of the reasons why we love internet dating – there’s no point trying to be anything but yourself. In fact it’s the only way you’ll find your true matches and, if you’re lucky, your true love.
2) “Play it cool”
Lots of people seem to think that the worst thing you can do on a date is to show you’re interested. Which, when you think about it, is pretty crazy – after all, isn’t that the reason you’re on a date in the first place? We’re not saying you should engrave their name on the nearest tree or start planning your wedding, but it’s ok to let someone know if you’re keen. And if you’ve both chosen to give eHarmony a try, it’s already clear that you’re open to meeting someone – so no games necessary.
3) “Most dates go like this…”
This is not the kind of sentence you want to let someone finish. No two dates are the same, and if they are, you can be sure the third will be entirely different. The last thing you want to do when you start dating someone is to make assumptions. At best you might just miss out on really getting to know someone, and at worst it can get seriously awkward. So even if your mum thinks all men should pay on the first date, it might not go down very well if you turn up to dinner purse-less (you’d be surprised, it happens). Our advice? Get to know each other online before you meet and you won’t need to do too much guessing before the big day.. Although you never know, sometimes being surprised is half the fun!
4) “Going for dinner is the best first date”
Dinner is certainly a classic option, but it’s not the only one available. Online dating gives you the opportunity to pick a date that really suits you both. Whether it’s a walk by the water or a day at a theme park, you can tailor your dates to reflect your shared interests. Or, if you’re both willing, try something different – sometimes the most unusual dates turn out to be the best.
5) “Have a drink before your date to calm your nerves”
This might be the worst piece of advice ever. Nerves make us human – embrace them, be honest about them and you’ll find yourself relaxing in no time. If you’re still riddled with nerves on the date, focus on the other person and really listen to what they’re saying… you’ll forget all about your nerves.
What’s the worst piece of dating advice you’ve ever been given?
This article originally appeared on eHarmony Dating Advice.
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