The dos and don’ts of dating
By Harriet Farkash
We asked for your bad date symptoms and the #eHDateDoctor has been listening. Here are the doc’s top dating dos and don’ts for those who need a little reminder on how to treat a date!
Put in some effort. It is baffling how people can think it’s ok to show up to a date post gym-workout or with bad body odour. Shower before a date. And while you’re there, go ahead and brush your teeth because good hygiene can take you from ‘just a drink’ to dinner.
Respect boundaries. For example, avoid asking if your date would “wanna root” [yes, this was a genuine question for one poor woman!]. Sex on a first date is great, but never an expectation.
Keep your ego in check. A conversation is a two way street. If you’re talking more than Kanye West, shut up and ask your date a question!
Turn your phone off. And leave it in your bag because phones belong on tables as much as horses belong on the treadmill.
Be positive. Sure you might have had some bad dating stories or a horror ex, but complain about them to your friends or your shrink. Keep things light and fun for your date.
Avoid the movies. Save this for a few dates in – it’s hard to get to know someone when you’re meant to be quiet. Try a short first date, like a drink or a walk.
Talk about your genitals. Men, women do not need to know if you’re circumcised on a first date. Shocking, but true.
Lie. If you tell him you love football and you actually hate it more than cold sores, it’s no one’s fault but your own when it’s on the telly 24/7 during the season. Similarly, if you fib and tell her you love rom coms, you cannot complain when she drags you to every Rachel McAdams movie.
Just answer yes or no. The conversational equivalent of a dead end. The whole point of dating is getting to know each other, so open up and share. There is too much as TMI though so know where the line is and stay on the appropriate side.
Ask, “So why are you single?”. Ugh. Worst question ever! Why not try something easier, such as “So we were chatting about [insert hobby/movie/topic here] on eHarmony. How is it going?”
Get too touchy feely. Personal space is a real thing and some people need more of it. Keep all touching above the waist; for example, a light brush of the shoulder, which is respectful and sexy.
Assume you’re getting married after one date. Neither of you are under any obligation to take down your eHarmony profiles until you discuss exclusivity.
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