Why single dads make great partners
I can’t help but wonder if single dads are an untapped dating goldmine. Some women who want children of their own tend to avoid single dads. They may make the assumption that ‘he has already had his kids, he won’t want any more with me’ or they rule him out because they want a fresh beginning with a ‘virgin dad’.
On the other hand, some women who don’t want children tend to avoid single dads too. They figure that they have made the decision not to have their own kids so why connect with a guy who is a package deal?
Untapped dating GOLD
Ladies, if you do want to have children of your own, a single dad could be an amazing support for you. Imagine having a child with someone who has been there before, who has the confidence that ‘everything will be ok’, someone who has experience with children and you can see evidence of his parenting skills before you commit.
If you don’t want kids of your own, wouldn’t it be great to connect with a man who already has his fathering needs met and has a part-time role as a dad? This could take the pressure off you to have kids and also give you the opportunity for a less-involved, low-maintenance non-parenting role.
3 Good reasons
- He’s a grown up
Ok, I am making a few assumptions here, but stay with me.
A man who has lived through the experience of a relationship, a pregnancy, a birth, new-born-hood, infancy, the toddler years and beyond has done some growing up. Having children has an incredible knack of putting things into perspective and deemphasising you own trivial issues.
He has most likely learned that he is no longer the centre of the universe and learned to share, empathise, care for others and take responsibility. Aren’t these fantastic traits for a potential partner too?
- He’s not afraid to have feelings
The single dad has probably learned that it takes a lot of strength to be soft and that there is nothing wrong with showing love. As we all know, children are dominated by their emotions so he has had loads of exposure to heightened emotion (good news for supporting you through your ups and downs).
He is less likely to be scared off by the realities of life and all the mixed emotions that come with a committed relationship – he’s emotionally fit.
- He’s in it for the long haul
Any single dad worth his salt will be choosy about when he introduces new partners to his kids. He will be discerning about who has the right values, attitudes and lifestyle to be potential role models for his children. Although this may mean that he takes it slow (and you’ll need to be patient!) it also means that when he chooses you, he means it.
A single dad is likely to invest in you for the long term, to invite you into his family as a valued member and to include you in his sacred inner circle. This is a privilege reserved for the right person.
So in honour of this Father’s Day, why not open your mind to the prospect of dating a single dad? You just might find that a little of that untapped gold rubs off on you.
By Melanie Schilling, Psychologist and Dating Coach
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