Speed dating: does it work?
The appeal of speed dating is obvious: meet a large number of new people in one night to maximise your odds of hitting it off with someone. But does it really work? It can, if you go in with the right attitude and follow these tips.
Come prepared with interesting questions
Let’s be honest, not only are questions about where you live and what you do for work predictable, but they can make a date feel more like a job interview. They also don’t do much to build intimacy or reveal someone’s personality and values. To make the most of your mini speed dates, come prepared with questions that scratch below the surface like “What’s your most recent embarrassing experience?” or “Tell me about one of your happiest childhood memories”. Not only will this show your date that you are genuinely interested in getting to know them, it’ll leave a lasting impression by making you stand out from the ‘job interview’ pack.
Wear something comfortable
Dressing comfortably isn’t about looking sloppy or not putting any thought into your appearance, it simply means wearing something that makes you feel good and at ease. For men, this could mean wearing nice jeans and a button-up or polo shirt; for women, a flattering dress or a nice top paired with jeans. Avoid anything that’s likely to be too restrictive or ill-fitting that you’ll be tugging at all night. First dates can be stressful enough as is and you want to keep your attention on your dates, so wear something flattering that makes you feel attractive and confident.
Go in with an open mind
While it’s normal to have expectations, try going into this experience with an open mind. You might have your usual ‘type’, but what if you let go of that notion for one night and opened yourself up to the possibility of meeting someone completely different? Use each mini date to find out about your date’s values, personality and interests. You might just be surprised that you can connect with all kinds of people when you leave your expectations at the door. At the very least, speed dating is a good opportunity to sharpen your dating senses so that when the right person does come your way, you can truly appreciate who they are and why they’re right for you.
Last but not least, have fun! Keep an open mind, enjoy the experience, and congratulate yourself on trying something new.
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