When to change your relationship status on Facebook

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Facebook relationship status

Until something is on Facebook, some people think it isn’t official. Social media is the most common way to spread news and share life events with your friends and family. When it comes to announcing you’re in a new relationship, you need to take into account your partner’s feelings about making it public. This new dimension in romantic relationships raises some important issues.

Communication

Social media is essentially a fast way to communicate information to lots of people at the same time. Before you go sharing your happy news with the masses, it’s important to have a conversation with your partner about how they feel about going public.

The subject is best left until you have been seeing each other for long enough to want to make it exclusive. At this point you’ll probably start having conversations about how you’re going to become a more significant part of each others lives and what that means to each of you.

People have different views on the use of social media. If your partner is reluctant to make a public announcement it doesn’t necessarily mean that they aren’t serious about the relationship, maybe they’re just cautious. It’s not a good idea to change your status before you’ve talked to your partner about it, especially if you’re going to name them as the person you’re in a relationship with.

How soon is too soon?

Young people are more likely to change their relationship status within days of starting to see someone new. This may be because they’re more familiar with sharing their life publicly and are  used to using social media to do it.

Whatever your age, sharing your status too early in a relationship means that if things don’t work out you’ll have to change it back again, which could be embarrassing.

If you are looking for a serious, lasting relationship then give it time to develop before you open it up to the public scrutiny of family and friends.

Doing the deed

Once you and your partner have made a decision to announce your union, you need to know how to do it. For the uninitiated, here is a quick breakdown of the process:

Go to your home page, click ‘update info’. Under ‘About’ go to ‘relationship’ and then ‘add your relationship’ or ‘edit’. You can choose from ‘single, in a relationship, engaged, married, in a civil partnership, in an open relationship, its complicated, separated, divorced or widowed.’ The last 3 options don’t automatically show in your news feed or ask for the name of the other person.

Privacy

It’s always advisable to change your privacy settings so you can choose what you share publicly. Change the privacy settings in the drop down menu on the right or your change of status will appear on your timeline and in everyone else’s notifications. You can custom lists so that you only share important information with the people closest to you. Remember to click ‘save’ at the bottom to keep the changes otherwise it will revert back to the default settings.

Adding your new relationship as a ‘life event’

On your home page above the status box you can add a ‘life event’ Choose the category ‘family and relationships’ and select either ‘first met or new relationship.. You can write the story or add pictures, and Facebook will remember the day this event took place.

It’s a more formal way of introducing a new partner to your virtual world and a nice thing to do together as a couple, especially if you have some nice photos to upload at the same time.


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