Five ways to spice up your love life


By Leesa Bow

My husband played football for over a decade, which is how I learned to turn our limited time together into special, quality moments. Here are the top five tactics I developed for turning normally-mundane activities with my partner into an opportunity for romance.

Set the mood

Home-cooked dinners are the perfect opportunity to dial up the romance with your partner. If it’s your turn to cook, set the mood by dimming the lights and adding candles to the table setting. Make sure mobile phones are silenced so you can talk to each other without interruptions. Playing music softly in the background is also a great way to evoke a calm and romantic mood. Stretch out the meal by serving an entrée and dessert!

Dine out at quiet places

If you are going out on a date, the last thing you want is to be in a loud, busy environment and not be able to hear each other talk. Find a quiet restaurant so you can enjoy each other’s company, or for something different grab a take-away meal and go on a picnic.

Be affectionate

Affection is an important aspect of a relationship. Touch his hand when you two are talking, or brush her shoulder when you walk past. If you’re at a comfortable stage, hug and kiss your partner regularly. Research shows that touch and cuddling can help alleviate anxiety and stress, as well as build trust between one another.

Watch a movie together

Sitting in the dark and holding hands during a movie can be an intimate experience, be it at home or at the cinema. Tip: have a big bowl of fresh popcorn to enjoy during your movie date.


While apart during the day, a text is an easy and thoughtful way to let your partner know you’re thinking about him, and a gentle reminder of how much he mean to you.

No matter how long you’ve been together, it’s important to remind your partner how much you appreciate him or her. By occasionally adding the extra effort with simple thoughtful gestures, your relationship will only grow stronger.

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