What To Do If Your Guy Has a Wandering Eye


1. Accept it as normal: The way some women dress, who could help but notice them? Women often spot another attractive woman long before a man does. It’s in our DNA to respond to environmental cues, just like it is in a man to do the same. His noticing an attractive woman does not mean that he doesn’t find you attractive, and it doesn’t mean he wants to dump you to be with her. It is human nature to notice when an attractive person walks by so when it happens, don’t over-analyse it too much.

2. Be interesting enough to keep his attention on you: Men are more simple than most women give them credit for and, contrary to public opinion, they are not attracted by looks alone. Honestly, men just want to have a nice time when they’re with you. They find happiness to be even more attractive than innate beauty, especially when that happiness is directed at them. While a beautiful woman will catch their attention briefly, a man will quickly tire of any woman (beautiful or otherwise) who is chronically irritable or becomes too much work to be with. Men stick with women who make them feel good, so be that woman, and you will outshine the rest of the room.

3. Don’t punish him:As much as you may want to dump your water over his head, don’t do it. The more irritable you are, the more of a turn-off you are. Your tantrum may work in the short term, but if you make it a habit, it will backfire in the end. Men who learn to keep their eyes on the ground so as not to upset their partner become demoralised and emasculated. Remember, it is human nature to avoid discomfort and seek comfort. Don’t let your reactions become uncomfortable to the point that your man finds comfort elsewhere. The thought of being with another woman can be enhanced if he associates too much discomfort to your reactions.

4. Let me help you:If he just won’t stop, you can use comfort and discomfort in a slightly different way. Instead of trying to control his behaviour, you could try some light-hearted reverse psychology. What would happen if you noticed the beautiful woman, too, and commented a bit too loudly on her various attributes? “Wow. Check her out. She looks amaaaazziiiingggg!” Most men look at other women at least half-consciously, and by you noticing her in an even more exaggerated way, many men will get uncomfortable enough to want you to stop, and thereby, modify their own behaviour. Don’t overdo this to the point of punishment though, and keep it light-hearted.

Before you know it, you may find your man purposely trying to keep his attention on you.

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This article originally appeared on eHarmony Blog.


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