A simple guide to writing your dating profile


If you’re like most of us, you’ll find writing about yourself really hard. And that can become doubly so when trying to write your eharmony profile.

Our user data analysis reveals that people who fill out all of their profile sections are more successful than members who leave them blank. So, our No1 tip is to fill out all the sections and reveal as much about yourself as you’re comfortable with. This way, you’ll give your matches a better sense of who you are and increase your chances of finding that perfect match.

Filling out your profile is easy when remembering these five simple rules:

  1. Highlight your positives
  2. Avoid clichés
  3. Reveal your values
  4. Check grammar and spelling
  5. Have fun and show your personality

Here we take you through each section, provide our expert tips and an example response for each. Now log in to your profile and let’s get started!

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What I’m most passionate about

This is the perfect opportunity: a) to reveal what’s important to you and b) for your matches to connect with you on a deeper level. User data reveals that members find this section important if it is filled by more than just a few words or a short sentence, and those who write more than 50 words get over 19% of their matches to initiate communication. Our tip is to make sure your response reflects your core values, i.e. what are the things in your life that make it worth living? For example, if you’re highest values were health, fitness and travel, you might write something like this:

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Things I’m thankful for

No need to over complicate things – just write down the first three things that come to mind. eharmony data shows that being brief is best in this section, with most users writing between 1 and 5 words.

  • Family and friends
  • My health
  • Living close to the beach and bushlands

My best life skills

 This is a chance to showcase your true talents. Everyone has something they’re good at! Simply select up to 3 options from the drop-down menu.

  • Achieving personal goals
  • Making friends laugh
  • Intellectual curiosity
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How my friends describe me

It’s a good idea to actually ask a friend this question, then select up to 4 options from the menu.

  • Ambitious
  • Good listener
  • Caring
  • Passionate

5 things I can’t live without

Include a mix of meaningful and fun responses that relate back to your values and passions, while also revealing your personality. User data reveals that while most members leave this section blank, but those who do write between 1 and 5 words get over 18.5% of their matches to communicate.

  • The fresh coastal air
  • My cat
  • My laptop (for writing, reading and connecting).
  • Music
  • Tea

 I typically spend my leisure time

These should also reflect your values and naturally follow on from your passions.

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The most important thing I’m looking for in a person

This is another important opportunity to draw in matches that align with your core values and beliefs. Be brutally honest and remember that your answer should reflect your highest value, not your preferences (which should be flexible).

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The most influential person in my life

Who has had the biggest impact on your life? Perhaps it’s a family member, close friend or mentor. Be sure to explain how that person has helped shape you. Our data shows that this is an especially important section where more counts, with users writing more than 20 words receiving 25% more communication requests than those who leave it blank.

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Best to ask a close friend if you’re unsure. This seems to be another important section for users, with those who write more than 30 words receiving 23% more communication requests than those who leave it blank.

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The last book I read and enjoyed

Use an all-time favourite if you’re having trouble remembering your last good read, and don’t forget to explain why you liked it so much. Users seem to find this section interesting when choosing which match to communicate with, with 20% more communication requests seen in members who fill out this section compared to those that don’t.

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The one thing I wish more people would notice about me

Highlight another positive attribute that also reflects your individuality. Again, you’ll likely receive more communication requests when this section is fully complete, with users writing more than 50 words getting almost 18% of their matches to initiate communication.

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A little more about me

This one is your blank canvas and your last chance to express anything else important to you that you haven’t mentioned already.

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