Ben & Pam
When did you join eHarmony?
What made you join eHarmony?
I wanted to meet someone special and I lived in an isolated outback town with limited options. I wanted to avoid the non-genuine prospects on the free dating sites.
Were you in a relationship before joining eHarmony or had you been single for a while?
Pam: I had been separated from my previous partner for two years.
Ben: I had been single for an extended period.
Do you have any children from a previous relationship?
Pam: Yes, a son.
The early days
When did you first start communicating with your partner?
About June 2009
When did you go on your first date? What did you do?
We went to the Adelaide Zoo. We looked at the animals and talked. Then we went out for dinner at an Adelaide Hills pub.
When did you realise this was something special?
On a date holiday to Tasmania, December 2009.
About your relationship
What makes you two compatible?
We share a lot of things, in particular our approach to life which is energetic, enthusiastic and adventurous.
How has your relationship progressed since meeting on eHarmony? What have been some of your most memorable moments?
Pam: We have now been married for four years, five months. We have had two children together, making a total of three children in the family. We have a dog too. The proposal, our wedding, our honeymoon and the births of our son and our daughter have been by far the most memorable moments, but there have been plenty of others.
Ben: We have now been married for four years, five months. We have had two children together, making a total of three children in the family. We have a dog too J. The most memorable moments have been shifting to the outback town of Leigh Creek; The proposal (which I half managed to surprise Pam), our wedding, our honeymoon and the births of our son and our daughter. Also to small moments of every day when I realise how lucky we are.
What would you say has been the key to your lasting relationship?
Good communication and a similar (but not the same) outlook on life and the world.
What’s your advice to other couples for helping a relationship go the distance?
Talk to each other. Listen to each other. Be open. Be honest.
What does the future hold for you two?
Travel and adventure, watching three amazing kids and a dog grow up. No, let’s face it, the dog will never grow up. Hmm, the dog is frowning at me. Too smart for his own good. Why did my eldest want to teach him to read?
About your partner
What’s your favourite thing about your partner?
Pam: He is always there for me, no matter what.
Ben: She is always there for me, no matter what, (unless the kids are crying or the dog needs walk or the washing needs to be hung up……correction Pam has just told me that she will be there for me ahead of the washing… I will wait and see. She has also said the dog is funnier even though he is asleep).
What’s your favourite thing to do with your partner?
What’s the thing you miss the most about your partner when they’re not around?
Pam: I miss having someone else to help chase the kids. I miss having someone to talk to who actually understands me on my level.
Ben: I miss Pam's company as it is nice to finish the day with a talk and relax together especially at the end of the day.