7 signs you’re dating a player
1. They say one thing and do another
Actions really do speak louder than words. If someone is genuinely interested in getting to know you, they will put in the effort. This means that they’ll keep their word and follow through with plans. If it feels like your date leaves you in hope and false promises, and doesn’t value and appreciate your time – move on to someone who does.
2. Conversation is sexually-charged
You can tell a lot about someone from the way they speak to you, and simple things like compliments can really give you a good indication of whether or not they want something serious. “You’re hot” as opposed to “You look beautiful” sends two completely different messages. If they are making more sexually-charged jokes than meaningful questions, this is a sure sign they have a short-term agenda on their mind.
3. You’re the last of their priorities
When someone wants to be with you, they will make every effort to do so. It’s that simple! They will prioritise you in their life and schedule and make sure that you are aware of it. You shouldn’t have to fight for a position in their life because if they were serious about getting to know you, you would already be a priority.
4. You don’t know where you stand
Dating a player will always leave you second-guessing and wondering where the relationship is headed. Whether it’s broken plans or agonising about when they’re going to call next, players love the chase and have no intention of committing to plans, let alone a future with you. You deserve certainty, consistency and clarity about your relationship so don’t settle for anything else.
5. You haven’t met their friends and family
If you’ve been dating for a few months and haven’t met any of their friends or family, this is a pretty big sign that you’re dating a player. Someone who sees a future with you and truly wants you in their life will be excited to introduce you to their loved ones and integrate you into their world.
6. They can’t commit to anything
If someone is serious about you they will book you up, make plans with you and won’t leave you wondering if they are seeing someone else at the same time. A player, on the other hand, will never be able to lock anything in, only see you when it’s convenient for them, and will have no long-term goals with you involved.
7. A player always try to get you in bed
A big deciding factor is whether or not they are able to hold off on the physical side of things. A player will usually have one thing on their mind, and with no strings attached. Someone worth keeping will value getting to know you before getting intimate.
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