Dating in your 60s

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Dating in your 60s

It used to be that life began at 40. Now with average life expectancy increasing and better health care, many people are finding that they are in their prime in their 60s.

If you’re single, it is natural to want a partner to share this bountiful time with –  to do all those things you dreamt of when you were younger but never had the time, and the confidence or means to do them. Beginning a new romance at this stage of life is sure to be an exhilarating, fun and life-changing experience, and the years are in your favour in terms of being successful.

You know yourself

Being comfortable in your own skin is a vital part of developing a healthy relationship with anyone. If you don’t like you, how can you believe anybody else will? It is often with age and maturity that confidence and self-acceptance grows. The successes and mistakes you have made in life will have helped define you as a person and you will have a realistic view of your faults, as well as your assets. This puts you in a privileged position of being able to present yourself in a true and realistic fashion, without apology.

Self-knowledge can help you identify your hopes and dreams for the next chapter of your life and establish a clear picture of the kind of relationship you would like to have.

Solid ground

Dating is a roller-coaster of emotions which can be unsettling when you’re younger and dealing with the rigours of everyday life. As you mature it’s natural to develop a certain amount of resilience as you have been through, and survived, life experiences. This emotional stability is the perfect foundation on which to build trust and intimacy as you are no longer going through the growing pains of early adulthood.

While you may be physically mature, you’re still young at heart and open to new experiences. The ability to embrace the unknown is increased with age as you become more objective. You’re able to see things from someone else’s point of view, and respond to facts rather than be overwhelmed by your feelings. These qualities can make the experience of a new relationship much more enjoyable as you will feel more relaxed and in control of your emotions.

Appreciation of life

You may have friends the same age as you who are sick or have died, and you witnessed how fleeting life is and how quickly it can be snatched away. It is almost impossible to go through these experiences without reflecting on your own mortality and the value of your life.

This appreciation of life is often enough for people to become more open minded and reassess their values in terms of relationships. They may realise that a relationship doesn’t need to be perfect for it to be happy and fulfilling.

Time

Retirement is an exciting time which many people look forward to for the whole of their working lives. Having a new relationship at this stage of life can make it doubly fulfilling and provide companionship for all those great adventures you are yet to have.

Having free time to spend with a new partner, without the distraction of children or career, can give a quality to relationships in later life that is almost impossible to achieve when you are younger.

Live – Love – Life

Often it is in later life that people begin to let go of the material concerns and realise that it is love that makes the world go round – not money, possessions or status.

To love and be loved is the greatest human experience. Don’t deny yourself the thrill of romance, simply because you are mature in years or don’t want to let go of your fears.


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