Increase your chances of finding love

How to increase your chances of finding love

by Eharmony Editorial Team - August 10, 2017

Are you struggling to find that special someone? Making small changes to your everyday routine could make all the difference. Here are 10 things to try today to increase your chances of finding love

Give online dating a try

We may be a little biased, but if you’re serious about finding love, online dating is a great place to start. Not only does it increase your dating pool but it also breaks down the distance barrier. In fact, for every mile that you look outside of a standard 10-mile radius, your chances of finding someone increase by 13%. Set up a dating profile, choose great profile photos and start chatting to your matches and you improve your prospects by 17%.

Change your daily routine

It’s amazing how many things we do on autopilot. The fundamentals of our daily routines – especially on weekdays – rarely change. We get up at the same time, take the same route to work, get coffee from the same place and grab lunch from the same café. Try changing just one aspect of your schedule and, not only will you be more aware of your surroundings, but you never know who you might meet!

Go the gym

Working out doesn’t only benefit our physical and mental health – it can also help whip your love life into shape! It’s all about meeting new people; plus if you strike up a conversation after spin class, you’ll find someone 15% faster than you would by heading straight home to the sofa.


The more people you meet, the more likely it is that you’ll find love – it’s a numbers game. Even with the help of online dating, you’re never going to meet anyone if you spend your evenings curled up on the sofa with a box set. Try to get out there as much as possible. Say yes to invitations. Go that old friend’s birthday party, even if you won’t know anyone. The more you push yourself to socialise, the easier – and more fun – it’ll become.

Make eye contact – and smile!

We’re all guilty of rushing around in our own worlds. We’re surrounded by people but we barely acknowledge them. While you should never make people feel uncomfortable, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t make eye contact with someone that you find attractive. Maybe even shoot them a smile. The worst that can happen is they ignore you, but you might just find your smile returned. And even if it doesn’t go any further, it’s sure to give you a welcome confidence boost.

Spend time with colleagues

Whether you work in an open plan office or on the shop floor, you probably spend at least 8 hours a day with the same group of people. Your colleagues could be the key to your love life. If you mix business and pleasure and meet their friends at after-work drinks, you could meet someone 15% faster.

Indulge in self-care

Mindset is all-important when it comes to dating. If you don’t feel ready and positive about finding love, then you’re unlikely to find it. It’s important to take time out for yourself. Take a break from dating. Stay off your phone and treat yourself. Enjoy a long bubble bath and catch up on your book. Schedule a massage. Whatever soothes your soul and puts you in a good head space.

Take up a new hobby

If you’re looking for love, then you could find it with someone who shares your interests – it’ll certainly make those first date conversations a little easier. Plus, by taking up a hobby that you’ve wanted to pursue for a while, you’ll be doing something that you enjoy regardless of whether you meet someone or not. Sign up to that community choir. Try that pottery class. Enrol in those Spanish lessons and you could increase your chances by 11%.

Relax your wish list

While it’s important to know what you are and aren’t looking for in a potential partner, you shouldn’t be too rigid about your wish list. The more requirements you have on your list, the less likely you are to find someone. Take some time to consider your deal-breakers. Could you be happy with someone who isn’t quite 6 foot tall? Would you be willing to compromise if you found the perfect person but they happened to hate your favourite film?

Have a session with a dating coach

It’s always worth getting a second opinion. Are you repeating the same mistakes and expecting a different result? Are you questioning your gut feelings? Having a session with an objective dating coach could help you challenge your patterns and identify opportunities to increase your chances. Whether they help you acknowledge that Mr. Unavailable is never going to turn into Mr. Right, or that only dating people within walking distance of your front door is limiting your options, they’re sure to help.